Are you tired of trying to overcome a porn addiction? How do you kick the habit? Recently I read that 70 million Internet uses will view some form of online sexual pictures or videos this year. If only 5% are addicted that would mean that 3.5 million people need help for porn addiction. Recently I received a plea for help from a man who simply couldn’t stop on his own. In describing his challenges he wrote, “I used to have a very strong work ethic and intense drive. Now I procrastinate whenever possible so I can look at porn. I find myself waiting til the last minute for everything. I also used to be regarded as a very caring husband and friend. Now I have trouble showing anything but frustration and anger.” My heart goes out to him, his wife, and the thousands of others who fight this battle every day.
A few years ago a friend of mine asked me to help him with a growing problem that he was experiencing. He was spending many hours each week counseling young men who were struggling with a porn addiction. These were good men who had become trapped in the web of addiction. They had been full of energy and excitement, but with the heavy weight of a porn addiction their internal fire was going out.
Unfortunately, when pornography addicts want to change, they don’t know where to turn or how to get help. If you are at this stage, please let me help you. I have developed three CDs and a workbook to help you develop the skills to change. Remember the old adage, “If we fail to plan we plan to fail.” You can succeed with the right preparation, knowledge, and skills. With the right preparation and learning, you can heal from a porn addiction. As a professional therapist, I have spent a lot of time considering the process it takes to change. I have come to believe that change is possible for all addicts. I see many of my clients succeeding.
Many porn addicts begin wondering if they can ever quit. They wonder what it takes to change and if they have it in them. They have tried over and over to quit only to find themselves trapped again. One man, when describing his porn addiction, said, “I’ve known that I was addicted to pornography for many years but have always believed I could control it myself. I always fail at controlling it. I tell myself several times per week that I need to not look at it anymore, but I always go back.”
With the advent of the Internet, pornography has become one of the fastest growing and most easily accessed “highs” to which someone can become addicted. Our society has no idea how devastating this addiction really is and what it will become. Those who are trapped in this addiction do know. They have feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. They are afraid to seek help because it is embarrasing. They are good people wondering where to get help for their porn addiction.
In a classic book, “Changing for Good” the authors describe six stages in change. These stages are:
- Precontemplation–During this stage the addicted person doesn’t believe they have a problem. They believe that they can handle things on their own. At this level the addicted person sees no need to change their behaviors.
- Contemplation–This is the place where change starts. Those who have a porn addiction start seeing the consequences of their actions. They may have been caught and realize that they may need help. This stage can last for weeks, months, or even years.
- Preparation–The preparation stage is the time where individuals start thinking about how they are going to change. They develop new strategies or plans. Their planning gives them hope that change is possible. They truly want to make the changes that lead to long-term success. During this stage they develop new tools and awareness so that they can break out of old patterns and habits.
- Take-Action–During the taking action stage, the plans made in the preparation stage are implemented. This is when new patterns and habits start to be formed. For the addict, this is an exciting time because they can see a difference in their life. Energy and excitement return to the addict’s life.
- Maintanance–Once action for change has taken place, the next big step is maintaining the growth and change that has occurred. During this stage it is important to continue growing and developing in other areas of life. The key of maintenance is learning to replace old habits with new productive ones.
- Relapse Prevention–The final stage is developing effective relapse prevention strategies. The fact is that most addicts relapse at some point in the recovery process. However, with effective relapse prevention strategies, long-term change is possible.
I have personally seen my clients change when they understood these stages and learned the tools they needed. Sadly, most who struggle with pornography addiction stay in the precontemplation stage until they have hurt themselves and others with their addiction. Others live in the contemplation stage trying to determine if they want to change or keep their addictive behaviors a little longer.
We at Treating Pornography Addiction, want to provide the best tools and resources to individuals struggling with a porn addiction. When you learn the steps you need to take to change you will gain a new hope and excitement in your life. You will realize that you don’t have to live with the heavy burden of pornography addiction.
“Unfortunately most people keep trying the same strategies to overcome their pornography addiction and they end up with the same disappointing results.
Are you prepared to receive information that will remake the person you have become? Here is what people are saying about the information available on these CDs:
“I was very skeptical when my bishop asked me to go to counseling. I thought I could do it on my own. I didn’t realize how much pornography had been impacting me. What was really cool was that once I learned these tools, I regained my hope. I am excited again. I want to thank you for giving me hope. I know I still have work ahead, but I know I have the right tools now. Thank you!”
“You know I didn’t realize how far down the path I was. I had given in so many times I didn’t consider how my actions were taking me from my family and my work. I really like your approach. You seem to understand the difficulties of recovery, but seem to keep me focused on the fact that I can win this battle. The awareness you have given me along with the tools really helps. Thanks.”
“My hope is back. I feel like a new person. You have laid the foundation for my change. My wife and kids are trying to get used to having their dad back. As for me, I know that I am still going to have challenges, but I really do see light at the end of the tunnel.”
Why am I struggling so much to overcome this pornography addiction?
I am often asked why pornography addiction is so hard to overcome. The answer lies inside of you where chemicals are released when you view pornography. These chemicals are extremely addictive and they are always available–your body produces them at will.
In order to understand the powerful effect of pornography on the mind, you have to consider that the mind records everything it sees. If you have looked at pornography, those images can be replayed in your mind anytime. Therefore, learning to stop those “replays” is crucial if you are going to win this fight.
In the “Treating Pornography Addiction Workbook”, you will find a chapter that describes how the process of addiction develops in the mind and how it can be deactivated. This description is extremely helpful for those seeking to break their patterns of addiction. One therapist who has worked with addictions for years read this chapter and said “I love this. I need to give this to everyone I work with who is dealing with an addiction. With the understanding they receive from this they will have the most helpful tool I could give them in fighting their addiction.”
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TREATING PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION: THE ESSENTIAL TOOLS FOR RECOVERY
If you are looking to change, help is available. Our educational CDs and workbook can help you change. They will help you in the preparation, taking action, maintanence, and relapse prevention stages. In the first two CDs you will learn:
- How pornography impacts your mind
- How your addiction developed
- How to break the pattern of viewing pornography by understanding yourself and your body
- How to re-write your mind scripts so that you don’t turn to pornography
- How to create a game plan that works for you
- How to heal from the shame and guilt you feel
- How to utilize your inner voice in the recovery process
This information will help you in the preparation stage of the change process. The next CD offers relapse prevention strategies to help you maintain the changes you have made. In this CD you will learn:
- The key elements that prevent change and contribute to relapse
- How to utilize your personal beliefs and values to win the battle
- The most important tools for preventing relapse
- How others are succeeding in overcoming their porn addiction (addiction pornography)
Finally, the workbook offers an in-depth understanding into the following areas:
- The creation of a pornography addiction (addiction pornography)
- How to assess your level of addiction
- How to activate and deactivate addictive behaviors
- The steps to change for good
- The key principles that lead to a new life of recovery and hope
|“What Does It Cost?”|
|Counseling, Groups, Lost Productivity||USD/year|
|Counseling 3 sessions @80 per hour||$240|
|Group 12 sessions at $30||$360|
|Money spent on Pornography 50% don’t spend money on porn while those who do avg. $50-100 a year (as reported on my site)||$50-100|
|Lost Productivity (retake classes, missed job advancement).||$500-1000 minimum|
|Family and relationship problems||Too Much|
|Total Cost without Lost Productivity and Family Issues||>$650|
|Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools For Recovery||Costs a Small Fraction of What It Is Worth.|
Overcome Porn Addiction
When you purchase this product, you are taking charge of your life. These CDs and workbook will provide you with answers to many of the questions you have been wondering about. You aren’t alone. There is help available and you can join the hundreds of others who have benefitted from this material.
Our work has taught us that you can prevent a lot of pain by seeking help. If you would like to learn the essential tools for overcoming a pornography addiction and prevent a lot of pain, you can get help today.
“Don’t wait to get help. Gain the tools you need to make a permanent and lasting change in your life. We will provide you the information you need to make these changes.”
You can overcome this addiction. Let me help you. Get started today.
Wishing you the best,
Dr. Kevin B. Skinner, LMFT
p.s. You can listen to an audio sample of the parent’s guide
p.s. If you, your spouse, a child or another family member is dealing with a pornography problem, the contents of these CDs will help you fight the battle step by step. Regarding these CD’s one religious leader said, “There are many books out lately, but I believe none come close to being able to learn from the CD’s and workbook together. We need these tools in order to help those trapped in pornography fully recover and to salvage and foster marriages. I have not found any other product that compares to the benefit of what Dr. Skinner has created.”
One man who recently purchased this product said, “Thank you. Your teachings and help are aiding me through a once deep addiction as well as giving me the opportunity to help some friends go through it too. I will never be the same.”
This set includes the published book and the 5 cd set (including both the parent's and spouse's guide). It will be shipped within 1-2 business after cleared payment.
Dr. Skinner has written a special report that addresses how addiction influences intimacy in relationships. In this article you will learn:
- How addiction prevents intimacy
- How you can increase intimacy while decreasing the addictive behavior
- How to increase the intimacy in your relationship while overcoming an addiction
The human heart desires intimacy. Addiction is what happens when we give up hope for intimacy. Our entire civilization is built upon the need for love and acceptance—the need for intimacy. As you apply these principles you will learn more about yourself and relationship intimacy. Addiction is something you CANovercome: Intimacy is something you CAN achieve.
The charge for this article is $5.00 regularly $19.95.
This article will be immediately available in PDF format to download after payment.
Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery is for individuals who want to begin the recovery process. It is filled with exercises and specific solutions that if implemented will help you heal.
Regarding this book, Dr. Jack Ayre said, “I know of no other product that so carefully and professionally walks a sincere addict through the process of facing the challenge and working methodically through the condition.”
Here’s what others are saying about this book as found on Amazon.com
A Practical, Working Guide to Breaking the Chain of Addiction, January 15, 2007
Reviewer: Brenda Purvis –
I highly recommend this book to counselors or individuals seeking practical methods of dealing with pornography addiction. Dr. Skinner’s does a great job of describing the drivers and nature of the problem and his approach outlines doable steps toward recovery. It is the best book on the subject I have seen. We are now recommending it to individuals in our counseling practice with good success.
A great supplement to works by Patrick Carnes!!!, December 22, 2006
Reviewer: Nicholas the Pilgrim (Washington State) –
This is another excellent book in the literature of recovery from sexual addictions. While the title states it’s about “Treating Pornography Addiction,” the material here will be helpful, and encouraging, to anyone dealing with any number of sexual, lust and love-related addictions.
While the author, Dr. Kevin B. Skinner, makes abundant use of the work done by Dr. Patrick Carnes and his colleagues, Skinner provides some additional insights that are either not covered by Carnes, or are presented in a different manner. While I would highly recommend the many helpful titles written by Carnes, I believe that Skinner provides a much-needed supplement to that body of literature.
One of the things that stands out in Skinner’s book here is his clear description of the chemical reactions that take place within an individual as one contemplates and moves toward his or her object of lust (usually pornography), which frequently results in acting out. Just the awareness of the drug effect of this disease should be enough to make many individuals more guarded when those initial thoughts of lust, or temptation, get started. Skinner provides the tools to develop an alternate plan when those temptations arise.
Another thing that stands out in this work is Skinner’s emphasis on reducing shame when an individual succumbs to the temptation to act out. He spends a great deal of time encouraging the recovering addict to learn from each slip and to discover ways to prevent similar slips in the future. There is great encouragement in knowing that recovering addicts are bound to slip up on the road to recovery, but as long as things are learned from each experience, and effort is made to avoid a repeat, all is not lost. One is actually moving in the right direction.
Skinner offers a lot of practical advice. He spends a couple of chapters on the importance of keeping a journal. He is very specific in the types of information, and most importantly the level of honesty, that one puts into a journal. One chapter is devoted entirely to a sampling of an individual’s journal over the course of seven months of recovery. To follow this individual’s road to recovery is enlightening, and encouraging. It also helps to reinforce many of the principles Skinner makes earlier in the book.
It is my impression that any reader struggling with this type of addiction, or someone close to such an individual, would benefit from reading this book. By all means, read the books by Patrick Carnes, but add this one to the list. Dr. Skinner also provides some additional tools and information on his web site at his GrowthClimate web site.
This book has helped many people to understand the basic concepts of how to recover from a pornography problem. It will help you as well
This is the printed version of “Treating Pornography Addiction”. It will be shipped within 1-2 business days after payment.